| In this article I would like to focus on the subject of | | | | unknowingly projecting. Therefore to manifest a better |
| manifesting - which is really a fancy word for choosing | | | | relationship you need to pull off these negative |
| or creating the experiences we want in life. As always | | | | projections (by becoming aware of them) and to |
| we can look at this from a psychological or a spiritual | | | | replace them with positive thoughts and feelings. If you |
| angle, and I will do both in this article. | | | | can do this successfully and from the heart, you will be |
| The idea of manifesting is not new and it has recently | | | | guaranteed an improvement in the relationship. |
| become popular with books about Cosmic Ordering | | | | We can also look at manifesting in a more spiritual |
| and "The Secret." They essentially all say the same | | | | way. Many spiritual paths are based on the idea of |
| thing - that we can determine what happens to us in | | | | Oneness - that, at the most fundamental level of the |
| life and if we choose it, we can have a happy, rather | | | | Universe, everything is connected at a higher state of |
| than a miserable life. In the context of a relationship, it | | | | consciousness. It says that we are all effectively one |
| would suggest that we can influence its course in any | | | | person. In other words, your partner is not separate |
| direction that we choose. | | | | from you, but is part of your mind! Not only does this |
| This seems a crazy idea - after all, aren't we at the | | | | explain why our projections are so powerful but it also |
| mercy of circumstances and the people around us? If | | | | shows why changing our mind is the only way to |
| we feel dependent on situations and people we | | | | change the mind of the people around us. |
| certainly will feel controlled by them, but this need not | | | | The 'connective tissue' of Oneness is love and this |
| be the case. If we can let go of our dependence and | | | | implies that we are all representations of love in |
| regain true control of our hearts and minds, then we | | | | various physical forms. If love is our true reality, then |
| can indeed make things better for ourselves. Let's | | | | we can understand fear and negativity as a barrier to |
| start by considering a psychological approach to | | | | this love and something that WE create. In other |
| manifesting... | | | | words, all good things are continually available to us, if |
| Think about your own experiences in your various | | | | only we can remove the barriers that we have set up |
| relationships, personally and at work. You know that if | | | | to stop them. |
| you are aggressive with somebody, the chances are | | | | This is an extraordinary idea, but one that will release |
| that they will respond to you with aggression. On the | | | | you to have the life that you were designed to have - |
| other hand if you are pleasant and loving, they respond | | | | one full of love, joy and peace, and one that is full of |
| in similar ways. In a relationship we 'reap what we | | | | wonderful relationships. To remove the barriers that |
| sow'. Despite knowing this, we may still find ourselves | | | | you have set up, you will need to look at your life |
| reacting in ways that are unhelpful to our relationships. | | | | experiences and understand how that these influenced |
| This whole area of psychology is called projection. | | | | your self-beliefs and self-esteem. |
| In a purely psychological sense, another person will | | | | Once you have identified why you might not believe |
| tend to mirror our own thoughts, feelings and | | | | you deserve to be happy and truly successful in your |
| behaviours, both positively and negatively. If we react | | | | relationships and life, you can let go of any fear and |
| negatively to somebody, this tends to trigger their own | | | | guilt that you have been storing in your mind. |
| hidden fear, pain and guilt and they then react to try to | | | | As you do this, think of how you would like your |
| suppress these unpleasant feelings. In doing so they will | | | | relationships and life to be and then trust that this will |
| then exhibit their own negative behaviours unless they | | | | happen. This last piece is essential for you to succeed |
| have sufficient emotional intelligence to realize that we | | | | in manifesting because paradoxically you must let go |
| are in pain and need help and forgiveness. | | | | of the need to have the outcome you desire! |
| Often our negative projections are happening | | | | Manifesting can become a regular part of your life and |
| subconsciously and we are then surprised at the | | | | will bring with it ease and success - you will look back |
| response of the people around us. If you want to | | | | and wonder why you ever made it so difficult! f you |
| know what is going on in your subconscious mind, just | | | | are interested in understanding manifesting in more |
| look at how people are behaving towards you. It might | | | | detail, you can go to my website listed in the resource |
| not be very pretty but that is what you are | | | | box or obtain a copy of my eBook. |