| IF Only... THE Extraordinary Moment | | | | comfortable, chances are you're doing things the way |
| There's your beginning. How does the rest of your | | | | you've done them so expect the same results. If you |
| story go? | | | | want more, you must BECOME more First. |
| If you could write your own eulogy, what would you | | | | Create a life plan like a business plan. Dream big. |
| write? What would be the significant decisions, events, | | | | Make your dreams into MUST. Imagine them fulfilled. |
| places and people of whom you'd speak? What | | | | What would it be like with no regrets? With |
| moments were missed, relationships not pursued, | | | | excitement? With fulfillment of knowing you gave your |
| opportunities not explored? Where did you "settle" | | | | best? |
| rather than opt for the passion? Where did you get | | | | Make a PLAN. Write EXACTLY the steps you |
| stuck instead summoning energy to move ahead? | | | | need to do to get where you want to go. Some things |
| Where did you make a difference? | | | | will change as your journey unfolds. Be flexible in the |
| No ones life is either completely this or that. What | | | | steps while locked into the vision as a MUST. Don't |
| would be your significant images? What would you | | | | work on focus--work on the goal fulfillment, focus will |
| choose to remember? | | | | develop itself when the dream is a MUST. |
| For years, I've asked of many, "Is there anything that | | | | Get used to feeling uncomfortable. It's the feeling |
| you regret or would do differently if you had the | | | | of growing, of being alive. |
| chance?" Initially, often comes the superficially positive, | | | | Be specific about your wants. Put them on paper. |
| "If I had it to do all over again, I'd do the same things... | | | | Short term and long, once you write them down your |
| no regrets... it's all been great... a learning experience... I'd | | | | consciousness and your decisions during the day |
| make the same choices, yadda yadda." And for most, | | | | change as your dreams become priority. |
| it's nonsense! That first level of response is like the | | | | Chunk them down to make them approachable |
| automatic "I'm fine" to an casually tossed "How are | | | | and doable. |
| you?" When we delve deeper with, "If you could | | | | Set a goal date for each accomplishment creating |
| rewrite your life, what would you change?" and we | | | | a sense of urgency and focus. |
| allow time for reflection, responses become more | | | | Follow through and show yourself what you can |
| thoughtful. And now pours the stuff that therapists | | | | do, not what you can't. If you haven't been consistent |
| hear all day long. | | | | in the past, use those negative feelings of falling short |
| My wife, Nan tells a story of meeting a financier when | | | | to move you to create a better reality. Move past the |
| she was in her 30's and he was in his late 70's. She | | | | lazy or challenging stage and when you find resistance, |
| asked why, with his considerable success, was he | | | | see it for what it is (another step in the process) and |
| taking her program in personal growth and success as | | | | continue on. Distractions come in many forms. All |
| she had less than 1/2, at least in time and business, the | | | | distractions are equal. All give you the opportunity to |
| life experience. He offered, "Years ago, when some of | | | | show yourself you can decide over and over in the |
| my friends began to age, experience illness or die, and | | | | direction of your goals and dreams. This IS personal |
| I had the privilege of spending time with them, I asked if | | | | growth. |
| they had anything they regretted... and ALL of them | | | | 2. Choose Relationships with Care: Select your |
| said that they regretted far more the things that they | | | | partners, friends and mentors well. Whom you choose |
| did NOT do, then the things they did." He'd decided to | | | | to spend time and thoughts with will help shape your |
| never limit himself with the words "I know that" and to | | | | decisions and life. To whom are you giving the keys to |
| stay open to what presented itself as new idea or | | | | your life? You are known by the company you keep. |
| perspective. He saw that in her and encouraged her to | | | | Pay attention to the time and mind vampires. More |
| say YES to life's big opportunities and smallest | | | | distractions. |
| moments. | | | | 3. Learn more. First, learn more about you. Make |
| I keep his wisdom in mind when I prepare CD's | | | | Personal Growth a daily DO. Your business will never |
| designed to support the next phase of anyone's life. | | | | grow more than you do. Read the popular business |
| So I ask, "If you were looking back on your life from | | | | books and autobiographies of those with accomplished |
| your death bed, are there things you would like to | | | | lives. You can't pick up a bad one. It more depends on |
| have changed? To what did you say "No" and | | | | where you are and what you think you need. Trust |
| wonder "IF ONLY...?" Would you have paid more | | | | that book or tape to which you are attracted and read |
| attention in school, stood up to the bully, returned the | | | | it like it matters. |
| phone call, tended to a relationship, been more giving, | | | | Take classes and seminars with a mindset that |
| practiced your faith, taken a chance on the stock or | | | | says-"I'm new, I'm teachable and I'll use what's |
| business opportunity, said yes to the concert, read the | | | | important for me." Learn more about your business. |
| book, spent more quality time with kids, family, friends, | | | | When you're green you grow and when you're ripe |
| or said "I love you?" Hindsight is great, and the best | | | | you rot. Stay fresh. Keep your head in the game. |
| part is, we don't have to wait to have it. And with your | | | | Act on any great idea NOW... even if only a small |
| desire and sincere intent, THIS can be THE MOMENT | | | | step in its direction. |
| that creates your absolute satisfaction and joy when | | | | 4. Take care of your HEALTH |
| it's your time to look back. This moment can be the | | | | SLEEP: Improve your sleep patterns if you have |
| one where you decide to implement the use of the | | | | problems there. Poor sleep impacts not only energy |
| CD and its personalized vision. This is THE | | | | levels and health by compromising the immune system, |
| Extraordinary Moment as soon as you say YES to it | | | | but slows down the process of learning according to |
| and allow yourself to transform. | | | | recent university studies. |
| Obviously there aren't do-over's in the actuality we've | | | | NOURISH: Learn and choose to eat better each |
| lived A day lost, gone or invested is a day lost, gone or | | | | day. You probably already know a lot of what you |
| invested. In Hollywood, rewrites are possible. Here's | | | | need to know, but with the changes in our food supply, |
| how we do it in our own scripts. We not only have the | | | | real nutrition is harder to find. Do for yourself what's |
| opportunity to create ourselves differently in the time in | | | | right, not just what's easy. Start with small victories and |
| front of us, but, in THE Extraordinary Moment, we can | | | | keep making better decisions. Form the right eating |
| choose a perspective that serves us even considering | | | | habits. Your energy, health and quality of life depend on |
| our past experience. The past is not fixed. It's as | | | | it. |
| kaleidoscopic as the memories and perspectives we | | | | EXERCISE: Rust never sleeps. Stay ahead of it. |
| choose of it. Remember, it's never what happens that | | | | Don't like to exercise? Do it anyway. The alternative to |
| matters, it's how we view it that empowers or | | | | moving is not very attractive. |
| disenfranchises us from our goals. | | | | 5. Learn to relax. There are lots of different ways, |
| So, what DO you want instead? You can't live a single | | | | from meditation, yoga, self hypnosis, it's all good. And |
| day over but you can write a better script. Who and | | | | it's even better when done with consistency. To be |
| how do you want to be when you grow up? What's it | | | | able to switch gears, slow down and gain perspective |
| going to be like for you and those who experience | | | | is what highly effective people do. The use of |
| you? If the best way to predict the future is to create | | | | visualization especially in a relaxed mental state has |
| it, what do you want the future to be? When is NOW | | | | been used by athletes, students, those in pain and |
| the best time to make it happen? | | | | business people to facilitate change many times faster |
| 'Tis the time of year to reflect and take inventory in | | | | than would ordinarily be experienced. You don't need |
| setting your course. You don't need the three ghostly | | | | to reinvent the wheel. Use what has already proven |
| apparitions of Scrooge to take you to the past, | | | | itself to work. Copy success. |
| present and future to impact your life now. It's not hard | | | | The life that you have is a life worth paying attention |
| to make the changes happen, but it does take some | | | | to and enjoying. Each day as you create your |
| planning and follow through. Abort IF Only! Systems | | | | memories, these suggestions above can be the tipping |
| GO: The Extraordinary Moment! | | | | points that matter. |
| Here's how to create the rest of your time by your | | | | The economy will not determine how good any year |
| conscious design.. it's a perfect time. | | | | will be. You will. You can go kicking and screaming or |
| Here are 5 KEYS for getting back to or creating a life | | | | you can go with ease, style and grace. It really is about |
| by choice not chance and HOW to use them. | | | | choice. Choose well. |
| 1. Set goals for the year that stretch you. If you're | | | | |